Typical Hindu Wedding
MATIKOR:- performance of Dharthi Pooja and the digging of earth and placing it under the Kalsa under the Bamboo
DWAAR POOJA:- a short ceremony that takes place at the entrance of the bride’s home where the groom is honored. The fathers of both bride and groom greet each other.
PARCHAN:- other family members continues to honor the groom and offer gifts as token of their deep appreciation.
JANWAS:- a resting place prepared by the bride’s father for the wedding party accompanying the groom. In olden days the groom usually travel long distances and so would have appropriately need a place to rest.
AMLI-GHOTE:- a traditional ceremony performed by the bride’s mamoo where the bride secretly sends a message to her mother to inform her that she is ready to enter into the grahast life. This message is sent significant by the biting of mango leaves. Her mother received and accept the message by biting on the mango leaf which she received from her brother, the bride’s mamoo. (The bride chose her mamoo as her confident messenger since, because of her love for her parents, she is concern that her request to leave their home would bring grief to loved ones.)
VAR POOJA:- the groom enters the mandaap and the bride’s father welcome him by performing paadyam, aarghyam and aachmanyam. All of this is done as an honor and respect for the groom who pride himself in joining the bride’s family. The bride’s father appropriately recognized that.
MADHUPARKAM:- is an Indian sweet. It beacons the sweet relationship which will become prominent between the two families. This is followed by aachman (sipping of water), angh-sparsh (cleansing of the body) and swasti vaachan and pooja.
RAKSHA SUTRA:- is a sacred thread given by the groom’s elder brother to the bride who vows to be her council guide and to protect her in times of distress and problems. (The Hindu system of life recognizes the need for constructive dialogue to resolve problematic situations which are inevitable factors of life.)
KANYA-DAAN:- bride’s father "gives the hand of the bride" in wedding ceremony to the groom. Sankalp is read, and the gods are petitioned for their divine blessings. (The bride’s brother pour pure water while the Sanlalp is read, and the relationship between the bride and the groom will remain pure and unbroken as the water which is poured on this sacred gift.)
GHAAT BANDHAN:- the tying of the knot signifies that an everlasting bond is formed between the marring parties.
MANGAL MANTRA:- the bride and groom perform their first pooja to Bhagwaan .
HAVAN:- bride and groom offering to the deities.
BHAWAR:- circumambulation of the fire. A show of commitment to each other before man and God. And the petitio to Narayan for protection and guidance, removal of fear and distress, request for happiness, show of compassion of love for God, a commitment to live a sinless life, prayer for long and healthy life and petition to Agni for success and happiness at all times.
SAPTPADI:- seven steps symbolic of their joint journey in life. Their steps towards the North Star is symbolic in that their joint journey is firm and immoveable as the north star.
SILA-ROHAN:- the bride demonstrates that her commitment to the groom and to her marriage is as firm and solid as the rock on which she places her feet.
SAAT-VACHAN:- seven vows taken before man and God.
LOTPATAA:- exchange of positions
HIRDAYA SPARSHA:- the attuned and unison of the two hearts and minds.
SINDUR DAAN:- a distinguished mark placed on the forehead of the bride signifying to the world of her marriage. This mark also commands the respect of others.
EXCHANGE OF RINGS:- an incorporation of a modern practice. And signing of marriage certificate.
Step 1. The groom, representative of Vishnu takes the first step for the attainment of food, and the bride, representative of Lakshmi, replies that she will use it for beneficial purposes.
Step 2. The groom takes the second step for the sake of strength and courage and the bride steps with him and his and her happiness, and that of relatives as well.
Step 3. The groom declares that for the accumulation of wealth, he takes the third step, and the bride declares that she will execute her Dharma in relation to him as a wife.
Step 4. The groom takes the fourth step towards mutual happiness (emphasizing that his happiness depends of her), and the bride declares that his happiness and difficulties are also hers.
Step 5. The groom takes the fifth step towards the protection of cattle, horses and other animals. And the bride reaffirms her devotion and commitment of her support.
Step 6. For the enjoyment of seasons and seasonal changes, the groom takes the sixth step, and the bride states that in addition, she will also support in giving alms, performing religious scarifies and making oblations.
Step 7. This step is a request for fidelity, righteousness, modesty and chastity. The bride declares that since the honor guests and celestial beings are witness to the marriage ceremony performed according to Vedic injunctions as ordained by God, her joy knows no bounds.
1. The bride request the if at any time the groom is desirous of performing Yajna, attend religious ceremonies or go on a pilgrimage that she be permitted to accompany him.
2. The bride requests that if at any time the groom is desirous of performing ancestral Yajna, that she be part of it.
3. The bride requests that he be part of such noble acts as giving support to lower animals or helping others.
4. The bride requests that the groom seeks her consent should it become necessary to borrow or lend, either at home or abroad.
5. The bride requests that she be consented beforehand should the groom decide to contribute towards the erection of a Temple, creation of a garden, digging of a well or performing of religious rituals.
6. The bride requests that her consent be obtain should the groom decides to conduct business at home or abroad.
7. The bride requests that at no time should the groom’s affection grow lesser towards her and that his actions adhere strictly to Divine Laws. From here on she requests him to regard every female as his mother, sister or daughter.
8. The groom requests that the bride do not indulge in intoxicating drink; visit places where precious time will be wasted. Nor should she belong to a group of which he does not approve.
9. The groom requests that the bride’s behaviorisms be such that it may create only favorable condition both in and away from home.
10. The groom requests the bride to sit on his left side as a symbol of divine amiability as ordained by Vedic and ancient injunctions. This position, which has need righteously reserved for her, is now duly occupied.
Sample Wedding day program
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1. Dwaar pooja }
2. Parchan } Tassaor Tassa Music at the wedding hall
3. Janwaas }
4. Var Pooja } Assembly is organized & Ceremony begins Short pooja is done
5. Madhuparkam } Short explanation with Bhajans
6. Bride enters Mandaap } Tassaif available as she enters, else Bhajans / Kirtans While Pooja is done
7. Raksha Sutra } Explanation to audience and bride & groom
8. Kanya Daan } Explanation with Bhajans or wedding songs
9. Garland } Wedding songs
10. Ghat-bandhan } Explanation with Bhajans
11. Mangal Mantra or Jaya homa } Bhajans-Kirtans
12. Bhawaar } Short explanation followed by wedding songs
13. Saptpadi } Explanation- audience anticipation
14. Sil-Lochan } Explanation – audience anticipation
15. Saat Vachan & Vows Audience participation.
15. Hirdai Sparsh } Explanation – audience anticipation & participation
16. Sindur Daan } Explanation with Bhajans
17. Exhange of Rings and signing of certificate Wedding Songs
18. Thank you statement & speeches if any.
19. Ashirbaad and closing prayers
20. Gift presentations by friends and families.